A perfect end to our Thanksgiving adventure was the news that yet another loved one is expecting. I get such a kick out of the evolution in young couples that occurs from the “we’re so not ready” to “I guess we’re doing this.” I’ve talked to several moms and grandmas over the years who’d had a whole string of unplanned pregnancies in which they describe that time as, “We did what we had to do.” I’ve also heard those same moms and grandmas say, “You’re never really ready.” And yet, here we all are, many of us a product of those sneaky surprises.
Ironically, “We did what we had to do,” seems to always be accompanied by great stories of creativity, good cheap fun, and a whole lotta laughs. In fact, “We did what we had to do,” doesn’t sound all that grim after all.
I think we’re better at doing what we have to do than we think. We don’t take stock in our own resilience. Because when the shit hits the fan, generally doing what we have to do is pretty damn good. We suddenly aren’t afraid to ask for help. We don’t waste time or energy on questioning our decisions; we act. We trust our intuition.
In fact, waiting for the “right time” can be one of our biggest faults, because more often than not that right time never comes. Is there even such a thing as calculated risk?
With babies, we just do it and then we figure it out, quite literally. That seems to be the way it’s been done since the dawn of time. And so far so good, right? For the most part?
I leave you with this: Where in your life are you waiting for the “right time,” calculating the risks? What commitment can you make today that will catapult you into action? What can you do now, and then trust that you’ll figure it out?
#onward to action