one woman's quest to live the life she's imagined all while daring you to do the same

Forgiveness: an attribute of the badass.

*via the unicornist

I know this is the throw-your-arms-up-in-the-air time of year when everything goes. All bets are off till January 1. I too have eaten cookies for breakfast for the last three days; I totally get it. Granted they were gluten-free, processed sugar free, Culinary Farmacy deliciousness–but still–not my usual healthy and hearty balanced breakfast.

So don’t worry, I’m not going to pry you away from the treats you have meticulously rationed for the next few days. I’m merely suggesting that we take this time before the New Year to reflect.

I love this Gandhi quote:

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

What a powerful way to enter the New Year having let go of troublesome gripes and toxic grudges. Some refer to forgiveness as the best gift that you can give yourself. Think of all the room we can create for goodness when we release what may be just the thing holding us back.

This could be a practice in forgiving others or even yourself. Extending the level of compassion it takes in order to truly forgive is a DAILY practice; one of which we can all begin today.

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.”
-Bernard Meltzer

There are a million-and-one reasons to forgive and a big fat goose egg to not. You don’t have to call someone up and be besties in order to forgive either. You can let go of everything all on your own; that’s the beauty of it.

I leave you with this: Try one or all of these exercises in order to lay the foundation for and open up to forgiveness. 1. Write a letter to the person who has wronged you. Say anything and everything, no holds barred. When you’re done, read it aloud. Allow yourself to feel every emotion which comes forth. Then, the fun part: burn it. Have a releasing ceremony and let it all go. 2. Meditate/pray with the person you are trying to forgive in mind. Imagine them sitting there with you. Try to sit in his/her shoes. From what point of vulnerability did they wrong you? Listen for any clues of compassion to help you release and let go. 3. Remember that the person has wronged you fewer times, perhaps even only once, than the amount of times you’ve told the story. Find a quiet space and tell the story, aloud or to yourself, just one more time…AND that’s it. Drop the story line and let go of the past. It does not define you. It is not keeping you safe. It is holding you back from more than you can imagine. That much I promise you.

#Onward to badass

Much Love,


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