one woman's quest to live the life she's imagined all while daring you to do the same

Fake It Till You Make It, For Real

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” – Kurt Vonnegut

So is it “Change your thoughts, change your life,” like Wayne Dyer and so many others postulate, or is it the other way around? Or does it matter as long as there’s a sense of awareness and we’re moving in the right direction, the betterment of oneself.

Since self delusion is woven so tightly into our perception it’s difficult to say which comes first, the chicken or the egg.

Because the basis of our reality is inherently flawed (naive realism: our conscious experience is not of the real world but an internal representation of the real world), our own thoughts and feelings cannot, or should not rather, be fixed in such tight and narrow slots that we often insist upon.

“We now know that there is no way you can ever know an “objective” reality, and we know that you can never know how much of subjective reality is a fabrication, because you never experience anything other than the output of your mind. Everything that’s ever happened to you has happened inside your skull.” – David McRaney; You Are Now Less Dumb 

This is why it is so important for us to choose. We create our world. We create how we respond to the world. We create our destiny. It is not our genetics, our lot in life, our dumb luck, it is what we make of it.

As we have seen so many overcome their circumstances, so shall we. Whether it’s affirmations first, or actions–“fake it till you make it”–each of us has the power to construct our best lives.

It all comes down to what you’re willing to believe.

“For many things, your attitudes came from actions that led to observations that led to explanations that led to beliefs. Your actions tend to chisel away at the raw marble of your persona, carving into being the self you experience from day to day. It doesn’t feel that way, though. To conscious experience, it feels as if you were the one holding the chisel, motivated by existing thoughts and beliefs. It feels as though the person wearing your pants performed actions consistent with your established character, yet there is plenty of research suggesting otherwise. The things you do often create the things you believe.” – David McRaney  

Are you actions in alignment with what you most desire?

Gandhi put it this way: “Our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our character, our character becomes our destiny.”

Either way, egg or chicken, this momentum requires intentions. If we say we want to live the dream, then we must act as if we already are!

I leave you with this: What kind of life are you willing to believe in? Step into those shoes. Get comfy.


Much Love,


ps. this post was inspired by this Brain Pickings article, of which i pulled several quotes. Thank you, JK, for forwarding it along;)

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