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Reshape Your World: Choose your own ending

In a small village lived an old farmer. He awoke one morning to discover his horse had run away. The news circulated through the town and his neighbor paid a visit and offered condolences, “What a shame,” he said.

“Maybe yes, maybe no.” Replied the farmer.

The next day, the horse returned, bringing with it five wild horses.

“What a blessing!” Said the neighbor.

“Maybe yes, maybe no.”

The following morning the farmer’s young son tried to ride one of the wild horses, was thrown and broke his leg.

“What a shame,” said the neighbor.

“Maybe yes, maybe no,” said the farmer.

That evening, high ranking army officials arrived, enlisting every able-bodied young man and taking them off to war. The farmer’s son however was left behind.

“What a blessing,” said the neighbor.

“Maybe yes, maybe no,” said the farmer.

Clearly the farmer knows a thing or two about equanimity, which can be cultivated through mindfulness, ultimately laying a strong foundation for reframing.

Reframing takes a lot of practice. It takes a willing eye to see beyond what appears to be the only interpretation, especially with charged emotions swirling.

Psychologists are increasingly studying the effects on the brain from positive reframing. Studies have shown that cognitive reappraisal activates the pre-frontal cortex (the part of the brain implicated in self regulation) and decreases the activation of the brain’s amygdala (the seed of fear and anxiety). Reframing literally changes the way your brain processes the experience.

Reframing crosses every philosophical lineage for thousands of years, especially those that have grown out of Eastern traditions. And science is now catching up, backing up old teachings with data.

I myself practice reframing daily and have found it to be a ginormous gamechanger in reshaping my world.

I wouldn’t exactly describe myself as equanimous, but I’m much more patient in my judgements of situations, and have since unbuckled the seat belt and stepped off the ride. I never was a fan of roller coasters, anyhow.

I leave you with this: Suspend judgement long enough to at least see both sides. Then choose your own ending. It’s that difficult and that simple all in the same. Hence, why they call it a practice. Keep at it.


Much Love,


* Story and research borrowed from the book I just finished, Uncertainty: Turning fear and doubt into fuel for brilliance by Jonathon Fields.

Kat Hurley is a transformational author, speaker and personal development coach, making over motivation @The Year of Magical Dreaming. For the full 411, visit, yo!

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