Nothing like talking about Byron Katie over gluten free apple pie. I was so thrilled to find a fellow Katie fan during the festivities this weekend. Funny, I can’t even remember how she came up, but the pie was damn good–that much I recall.
Katie’s book Loving What Is had been such a game changer in my life. I have used The Work—her simple 4-question strategy to revealing unconscious beliefs–on myself and have even introduced it to clients over the years. Never gets old, really.
There is something so eye-opening about questioning our thoughts/beliefs. Most of us just accept as fact the thoughts and emotions that flood our minds.
“Noticing where your suffering comes from.” — is kinda nice. That is until you realize that you have perpetuated the suffering by gripping tight to those long held beliefs.
I stand guilty, for sure.
It reminds me of the Mark Twain quote: “I had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
Katie talks imagination vs. reality:
“Reality has a way about it, as opposed to imagination. Imagination, not keeping up with reality, is not that comfortable.”
In this video, the gentleman is struggling with living up to his potential, something I think we can all relate to.
Katie, in her endearing way, challenges what that really even means.
She suggests instead:
“Whatever you take on, do it as well as you can and that’s your full potential. That’s how I do the dishes. That’s how I scrub the floor. It’s how I am with my children, my husband. I do the best that I can. And that’s my full potential in the moment, and that’s good with me.”
As the gentleman in the vid hashes out his thoughts, even he begins to realize how ridiculous they sound. Often it is enough just to write them down and read them aloud. You might wonder who that seven-year-old is inside your head throwing a tantrum.
This is the 4th time I’ve written about Byron Katie, and I can’t promise there won’t be more. She’s a staple in my diet, that’s for certain. A good reminder Thursday with that pie.
I leave you with this: Redefine potential.
Kat Hurley is a transformational author, speaker and personal development coach, making over motivation @The Year of Magical Dreaming. For the full 411, visit kathurley.com, yo!