I love the brilliant Seth Godin:
Unfair things happen. You might be diagnosed with a disease, demoted for a mistake you didn’t make, convicted of a crime you didn’t commit. The ref might make a bad call, an agreement might be abrogated, a partner might let you down.
Our instinct is to fight these unfairnesses, to succumb if there’s no choice, but to go down kicking and screaming. We want to make it clear that we won’t accept injustice easily, we want to teach the system a lesson, we want them to know that we’re not a pushover.
But will it change the situation? Will the diagnosis be changed, the outcome of the call be any different?
What if, instead, we went at it singing and dancing? What if we walked into our four-year prison sentence determined to learn more, do more and contribute more than anyone had ever dreamed? What if we saw the derailment of one path as the opportunity to grow or to invent or to find another path?
This is incredibly difficult work, but it seems far better than the alternative. -Seth Godin
I spent so many years kicking and screaming; it makes me tired just thinking about it. It is only in the last few years that I’ve embraced singing and dancing, sometimes even among the criticism of others.
How can you not be pissed when you get a parking ticket? How can you not get frustrated when the line at the post office refuses to budge? How can you not beat your head against a wall when you’re car needs yet another repair?
Because it’s exhausting to kick and scream at that which we cannot change. The alternative, singing and dancing, is a beautiful letting go. It’s a giant sigh of relief–the realization: I have a choice here.
According to my homegirl, Pema Chodron, it takes about 90 seconds to process a surprise emotion/setback physiologically, after that … we choose to hold on.
I’ll even give us 30 more seconds for good measure, which means at 2 min. we should all be grooving!
I leave you with this: When you get the chance to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance. -Lee Ann Womack
Could you walk gracefully into a 4-year prison sentence for which you’d been wrongfully convicted? Is that really much different than accepting a diagnosis? Your thoughts …. please.
PS … Still manifesting my dance-off with Ellen. It’s coming!
Kat Hurley is a transformational author, speaker and personal development coach, making over motivation @The Year of Magical Dreaming. For the full 411, visit kathurley.com, yo!