I think for those of us who have hang-ups about money–yes, that includes me–we need to be reminded every once in a while that money is just as make believe as Monopoly.
Look at this Bitcoin for goodness sake. I still don’t get it.
Many of our hang-ups come from false beliefs we picked up from our parents. I for one grew up with my Gma who referenced the Great Depression at least once a day. Funny, I thought we were really poor until I started dating Elisa and realized that living in a country club and visiting our beach house every summer was not exactly poverty.
She, the youngest of seven, whose mom rationed out a bag of M & M’s was arguably poor-er. BUT, let’s not forget, still incredibly wealthy compared to our distant cousins across the pond living in third world conditions.
I’ll never forget when we visited Nepal and I was embarrassed by my Ipad. It seemed like such a grotesque symbol of first world excess. To many of the locals, I was wealthy. It didn’t matter that I was jobless and living off the fumes of meager savings. My passport made me rich.
We grow up thinking: Money doesn’t grow on trees! We have to work hard for our money. Money is evil. We shouldn’t be so money hungry. Sales people are sleazy. Don’t be so greedy. And on, and on, and on.
When people offer to pay for us, we say, “Oh, no you don’t.” When people ask us for a few dollars we think, “Why don’t you get a job like the rest of us?”
We hate to love on people who have all the money. We obsess over them one way or another. And yet isn’t it all just a game in which it only appears that they are winning.
But money doesn’t buy happiness. We learned that long ago. And, yet for most of us, we still want the opportunity to try.
It is only when we get really clear about our own money beliefs that we can begin to change them. When we catch ourselves spending for no reason, or not spending for some reason, we can get a better sense of our inner dialogue.
Money, just like anything is energy. It’s merely an exchange. It comes and it goes in waves, in rhythm. We have to be careful not to block that energy. We also have to learn to accept gifts and receive rewards as love and kindness. Money is not evil, nor is it hard to come by. Our worth has never been nor will it ever be equated to our bank account.
We must create a different dialogue, use new language, and let love in. There is plenty to go around.
I leave you with this: When have you felt the wealthiest in your life? Why?
Kat Hurley is a transformational author, speaker and personal development coach, making over motivation @The Year of Magical Dreaming. For the full 411, visit kathurley.com, yo!