In honor of March Madness, I wanted to pay a little homage to our own everyday madness. Why not, right?
I saw this quote recently and saved it for you: “If beating ourselves up worked, we’d all be thin, rich, and happy.” – Cheryl Richardson
It’s as if we want to beat the world to the punch. Because if we’re thinking it, clearly everyone else is, yes?
Truth is most people really don’t care. They are wrapped up and concerned with their own bid-nas and with their head in their phone, I bet they’ve hardly even noticed us anyway.
We have this inner self critic that we fear if we hush, we will lose our entire system of checks and balances and everything will go to shit … like college shit, or worse.
I say college because my entire bachelor of arts was spent in pursuit of keeping that delicious hazy four-year bender going in order to quiet that annoying ass “roommate.” How else do you consume jalapeno poppers and stuffed crust pizza at 4 AM with little remorse?
So how do we keep the good guy, the motivator, the inner you-got-this-bro, and get rid of the asshole, hey-fat-ass?
We respond more readily to the good guy. Or, better put, we feed the one we want to stay.
The good guy is actually our intuition. It’s our Jiminy Cricket, our friendly guide. We like him/her and therefore should listen more often. Dude is super sensitive and when we don’t pay attention, gives us the silent treatment for months.
Whereas the asshole, we can’t shut up. Especially because we keep the conversation going. WTF? We have to practice W.A.I.T.: Why am I talking? Why am I entertaining this douche?
Instead, our best response –silent treatment! Not only in words, but actions.
And even worse, kill it with kindness.
Laugh at the jerk. Buy him/her flowers. Take him/her to the park, for a jog, or have a bath. Read him/her your favorite stories. Out dance that prick.
Whatever we resist persists, so have tea with him/her. We will lose a battle day in and day out, but we will win with mushy gushy lovey dovey every time.
That’s not a hell yes to jalapeno poppers and pizza! Our intuition will guide us better. That’s a hell no to the barrage of daily fat jokes and trips to loserville.
I leave you with this: What’s your best method to quiet your inner critic? Do share.
Kat Hurley is a transformational author, inspirational storyteller, and live your dream life coach, making over motivation @The Year of Magical Dreaming. For the full 411, visit kathurley.com, yo!